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Fast Funerary, Financial Five

October 9th, 2014 at 08:45 am

1. Today was my first day braving the online banking since my 23 September departure. Ten minutes ago I paid the mortgage, the first time I have been late. Normally, five days before the end of the month, I schedule payment on either the first of the next month when it is due, or the last day of the current month. For obvious reasons I did not do this.

2. My brother died intestate, it appears, as nobody came up to me in e-mail or at the funeral, or the vigil, and said "hey I was a signatory to the will, and I'm telling you this because you've been named executrix." I am back home now, and if a will had been found, I would still be in Japan, and I dunno, probably bill collectors would be hassling my family by now. I don't usually recommend dying intestate, but that may be preferable to keeping an executrix without an income of her own overseas for at least seven weeks in a country where she doesn't know the language nor the customs.

3. If one has a digital or soft copy of a will, keep it on an external USB HDD or a flash/thumb drive. My brother's e-life is now in a laptop damaged from transit from Abu Dhabi to Osaka. I don't know what priority his widow has made data salvage: some sensitive news about their relationship was broken to me by his confidants, not by his widow, so she might be as willing to view his communications as I am willing to look at my credit card statement. If the data is salvaged, and there is a will on there, I'm gonna be p****d.

4. I paid for interment of "my half" of my brother's bones. Plus a few days in Vancouver in a downtown hotel for Canada-side estate duties; my brother died without a will, but he did send me a "if anything should happen to me" e-mail six months ago, with instructions, including his stated intention of procuring life insurance for his family, making a will, and appointing me executrix.

5. I abruptly left the home 23 September 2014, but I did print out all my internet account userids and passwords from our database and left them at my husband's workdesk before departure. Not as a "if anything should happen" precaution, but as a "I expect you to take care of things while I'm gone" message. Guess what: not everything was taken care of while I was gone.

Oh yeah, for those of you who might care and have oodles of altruistic facebook contacts - here's a

Text is GoFundMe link and Link is http://www.gofundme.com/f0ldvo
GoFundMe link to my bro's funeral expenses fund. This goes to his widow and child, not to me. My expenses are my responsibility.

4 Responses to “Fast Funerary, Financial Five”

  1. CB in the City Says:

    It must have been a difficult experience for you. I hope the will -- or lack of it -- is sorted out, and that you will find some measure of peace in your memories.

  2. PauletteGoddard Says:

    Hi, CB, this was a difficult experience for everyone, but I have solace of the excellent care my brother's Japanese family, my cousin, my brother's friends, my friends, my stepfather, my brother's doctor, the Holy Spirit, and yes, even several countries' airport security staff, and Cathay Pacific staff bestowed upon me when I was hurting.

  3. scfr Says:

    I'm so sorry for all you have been going through. If you do have to deal with any of your brother's personal business in the future, I would hope that American, Canadian, or Japanese Consulates (or Embassy) could provide some assistance.

  4. PauletteGoddard Says:

    Thank you, scfr. My sister-in-law and I were lucky to have the ready (except for Mondays) assistance of the Canadian Consulate in Tokyo, who advised me on how to transport my brother's bones, and told us updated information, like we didn't need to travel to Nagoya to get a death certificate notarized and translated. The representative spoke excellent Japanese to my sister-in-law, and wrote in English to me in a timely manner. I still think it fascinating that I needed only four Japanese words to get through Kansai International Airport security to my departure gate.

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